One of the senior members of our Church made the suggestion in September to have a monthly birthday celebration for all the birthdays that are taking place for the month. The folks who had the birthday would be responsible for bringing a cake. When I heard this I silently balked since I knew my birthday month was coming next. Another new member volunteered to bring cupcakes for October so at least that was covered.
I honestly don't like to be made the center of attention even for a brief minute. The most I like doing for my birthday is taking time off for work (always felt I shouldn't work on my birthday with the only exception being when I worked at Amazon since I needed whatever crumbs I could get) and traveling somewhere. I normally do like to venture out somewhere but this year I chose not to. It's a good thing too since the air traffic controller shortages that have been happening under Orange's administration. I did take off from the 15th - 17th.
I do want to go to the Japanese Gardens in Rockford, IL for my birthday. Since Dom isn't working and I know he has a love for Japanese culture, I thought it would be a good day trip for us. Plus it would be nice for us to do something together. The facility opens from 9am to 6pm daily and it would take us 2 hours to get there so we probably want to leave as early as possible. Dom also wanted to see the new movie adaptation of Kiss Of the Spider Woman. I had no clue that Jennifer Lopez was in it. It should be interesting to see how it is. Maybe we can do that Thursday or Friday.
So this past Sunday was when the October birthdays were being celebrated. I was reminded last week from the same senior member that my presence was required. As part of the Church board, our meeting was also being held at the Church as well. So I opted to go after the service. I'm so bad.
Of course since Dom and I are a package deal, I was asked about Dom's recent interview. Unfortunately Dom is having to deal with ageism. He mentioned that the interviewer was dry and disengaging the whole time. I feel that the interviewer didn't like that Dom was walking in with a cane and immediately dismissed him from consideration.
It's so frustrating. There's so many things we have to deal with when it comes to interviewing. Unfortunately a lot of different biases come into play. The interviewer made assumptions about Dom, not taking into account Dom's previous experiences. It's sad that due to that person's preconceived biases they missed out on a great employee.
I feel like at this point Dom needs to reach out to his previous employer and get them to put him in as a substitute. He tried applying for unemployment and as I expected, the previous employer declined it and claimed that Dom resigned which he didn't. But I'm thinking Dom is getting a bit tired of dealing with the bull. He's 61 now and if he waits till next June, he can hopefully collect on Social Security.
I just wish he would slow up on the hobby spending since he has no income coming in. He did finally try to put some of his dolls on sale but he did it through his personal Facebook site. He has not had any biters unfortunately so he needs to place his items on Ebay to hopefully get them sold.
I hope I can hang on somehow to my job and not get sick. On that front I'm in the process of trying to get a living trust done. Dom always says that he wants to be the one to die first but life doesn't always go as you plan and I remind him that I could be the one that dies first. If that happens I don't want Dom to lose the house because I didn't plan properly. I've heard too many stories especially in the gay world where if the main breadwinner passes, the surviving partner is thrown to the wolves and loses the home, especially with family members taking over. I'm fortunate in that I feel my sisters would not throw Dom out but I need to get things ready. I also have other assets that need to be divided. Fun times.
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