On December 15th Dom and I drove to Fort Wayne, IN to visit his Mom who was in the hospital recovering from a brain bleed. Dom asked me to drive since the trip was close to three hours and he's not comfortable anymore driving longer than two hours. I was in the office when he asked so I needed to quickly reach out to my manager to get approval. Thankfully she said it was fine and I was able to use some of my sick time.
So when we got there, we ran into Dom's sister Marie's husband Mel in a hallway near the room where Dom's Mom was staying. Immediately afterwards we ran into Marie. The hospital staff was taking care of his Mom so we waited outside her room until they were done.
We also ran into Dom's niece Lexie who was in the room while the staff was helping his Mom. Eventually we all were in the room and we were able to spend quality time with her. She sounded a lot better than she did when Dom talked to her a few days before the visit. At that time they were running lots of tests and she had a tube in her mouth and throat.
One of the things that drove Dom to wanting to see his Mom in person was Marie expressing wanting to take control over their Mom's care and finances. Dom and his Mom were upset that Marie insisted on taking his Dad to a rehab facility closer to her without considering what his Dad wanted. Dom also is worried that Marie will want to sell his Mom's house if something happens to her and then displace Lexie and Ava from the house.
Marie was quick to mention that Mom made her "executor" of her estate and the final go-to for what happens next. That definitely irritated Dom. He even asked me beforehand if I wanted to be "executor". But I declined as I do not want to be in the middle of that mess. Marie is a piece of work and I really don't want to deal with that and have her stressing me out. Plus it would potentially put a strain on Dom and my relationship which I do not want.
It is crazy how the love of money can cause division in a lot of families. I do pray that they are able to get through this. Dom is also hoping to convince his Mom to sell the home to her brother so that his nieces would be able to stay without being forced to move if Marie pursues trying to sell the home. Originally his parents stated that when they both are gone that the home would be split between Dom and his two sisters. Dom's sister Marina passed on but her nieces Ava and Lexie are still there. It makes sense to leave the home to the nieces as neither Dom nor Marie have need of the home. They could also put the home in a revocable living trust as well and explicitly spell out that the nieces would inherit the home. Hopefully they'll be able to resolve things before his Mom isn't able to.
Everyone in Dom's family, including Dom, are Type A's. So it can make for intense moments.
Dom's Mom is at a rehab facility that's closer to her home. She was feeling depressed at the thought of not being home for Christmas but the facility is allowing her to go home for Christmas. But like Cinderella, she has to return to the facility before Midnight.
Dom got to see his Mom on Christmas and plans to spend the 26th with her at the facility before he heads back home. He expressed sadness that his Mom felt hopeless because she wasn't able to get herself up from the loveseat she was sitting at. She lamented that if she can't get up from the loveseat, she may never come back home. But the hope is that the physical therapy will help her in recovery.
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